Do most women want to be sexually dominated?

what is your experience with this issue?

Comment by LOUANN BRIZENDINE on April 23, 2011 at 5:16pm: Robelarns says "What we have in the comment thread today, are feminists and anti-feminists, both extreme thinkers, and the anti-feminists the saddest of all, because while they think they are attacking feminism, they pretty much believe everything feminists say, and just defend the opposite.Guess what, feminists are just plain wrong. Men are dominant "on average" in the bedroom. It doesn't mean you release rapists from prison, it doesn't mean women are about to lose their rights.Your whole world view doesn't come crumbling down around you, just because you admit to one real world observation.So whether you are a feminist that thinks the world will crumble if you admit men or more dominant when it come to sex - or an anti-feminist who thinks it will and should - you are both wrong.This is just a common sense observation - that doesn't change the whole world at all.Life goes on. Calm down. If women can sometimes be dominant, there is just nothing wrong with men being dominant - and if they tend to favor that more in the bedroom - then that's just an observation - it changes nothing - in the end, each couple will decide on their own, what they like."

Comment by LOUANN BRIZENDINE on April 23, 2011 at 5:18pm: and a comment aby John: "There's dominance and submission and then there's dominance and submission. Some people seem to enjoy femdom (feminine domination) as a lifestyle while others like it as a bedroom game. I would guess that the corollary to femdom where the man dominates the woman is otherwise called bdsm. The peddlers of porn depict violent relationships through bdsm, but officianados of these acts maintain that if it's consensual, it's bdsm, otherwise it's abuse. I can't imagine people getting a sexual thrill out of being beaten although sadists would certainly seem to enjoy it. As an adjunct to turning on, porn is as complex as each individual receiving it. Generally, men enjoy viewing porn while women enjoy the written word, which, BTW, lends itself more to secrecy."

Comment by LOUANN BRIZENDINE on April 23, 2011 at 5:21pm: and Amy says "What is the saying about opinions, they are like "blanks" everyone has one? These Neuroscientists are really stretching it. How many men complain when a women takes control (does the work) by hopping on top? NONE. The brains they could be examining could have other mental issues when it comes to dominance/submission. In the everyday world, some people are more so than others, doesn't always translate into the bedroom."

Comment by LOUANN BRIZENDINE on April 23, 2011 at 5:26pm: The new book by neuroscientist Ogi Ogas who says: "feminism a sexual buzz kill" -- a veritable "anti-Viagra" This is the contentious claim made by Ogas, whose research into the brain chemistry of desire is raising eyebrows among some sex experts and certainly some feminists. Some would argue that the feminist movement has enabled women to be more proactive about expressing and fulfilling their sexual needs, but according to Ogas, problems arise -- at least on a neurochemical level, when strict gender equality is taken (full story... http://abcn.ws/eiqU4d

Comment by LOUANN BRIZENDINE on April 23, 2011 at 5:31pm: Linda comments ahta .."As the old quote goes, "Feminism is the radical concept that women are human beings." So much of this man's theory is semantics. He himself clarifies: ""A feminism that approaches the bedroom on equal footing and then proceeds mutually through asymmetrical power roles would be a sexually healthy form of feminism. One that needs to maintain equal power roles in the bedroom would limit sexual satisfaction." If a couple is entering into sex WITH EQUAL POWER, as he desribes, each equally free and empowered to communicate their needs and wants and with an agreement of mutual respect in this regard, that IS "equal power roles". That IS "feminism"."

Comment by LOUANN BRIZENDINE on April 23, 2011 at 5:39pm: Hi all--i just added some of the comments (below) folks made to the article written on this new book by neuroscientists about sexual thoughts that i was interviewed about for ABC Health News...I think this is a very interesting conversation about the changing roles in all aspects of mens and womens lives as we morph our society into one where40% of women make more than he does--and so the old power relationship of money being the man's income is changing some of the 'rules' if you will. --and how that is going to play out in the bedroom over the next generation is up in the air for now. What are some of your predictions?

Comment by LOUANN BRIZENDINE on April 23, 2011 at 5:40pm: replies Robelarns, "and Robelarns replies-- "You may have read this article as an attack on women - but thats just your perspective, this article is anything but - the author is merely talking about the science of the brain. We already know male and female brains are not 100% duplicates of each other - there are differences.Any attempt to describe those differences upsets some people - but thats just too bad. Why don't you propose your own alternate theory? You disagree that some women are submissive? In your mind all women are dominant and men are submissive? Therefore this scientist has taken the wrong view? Explain your opinion, if you can"

Comment by Greg Marcinko on April 23, 2011 at 5:58pm: I'm intrigued ... Is domination and feminism considered to be one in the same? Speaking from a man's point of view I seek relationships with women that I can consider equal to me. However in bedroom situations I would prefer that the woman take a more dominate role in the activities. Men are very easy to read ... women on the other hand are more complex so it makes sense to me that the woman should be "in control" in the bedroom.

I've had the opportunity of meeting women in the dominatrix lifestyle. Some are professional and some aren't Some are 100% dominate in all aspects of their lives and some are both dominate and submissive. In the lifestyle that's called a switch. Are there some neurochemicals in the brain that cause these tendencies? For example what makes me go from being very driven and maybe some might say a dominating person but when sexuality is involved I am very submissive?

Comment by john on April 23, 2011 at 8:48pm: I think there are a fair number of men who wish to be dominated by women but that's considered taboo and anti-patriarchal so it probably won't be studied or reported on. - john

Comment by Greg Marcinko on April 23, 2011 at 9:02pm: Hi John,

You'd be amazed oat how many men find great comfort in having a woman have control. Senior executives that are under intense pressure are the ones that seek out dominating women the most to let them release themselves from the pressure of their daily lives. I agree that it is considered taboo but it is still true.

Greg