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Do women find male genitals a turn on or turn-off? (Genitals she doesn't already 'know' that is)

What's up with this?

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Comment by Steven Meloan on June 12, 2011 at 4:31pm

While intended for comedic purposes, the Jon Stewart show recently addressed this very topic!


Comment by angel macedon on June 13, 2011 at 12:13pm
I think in general that is true that women need more inducement to have sex, but not always.  i have found in relationships the amount of turn on a woman needs is directly related to the kind of relationship she is in, and  what her motivations are in having sex. In short, the longer and  more settled a woman is in a relationship the more she expects to be cajoled, pampered or coerced ( bought ) into having sex. As a man, i've found i am far less likely to have to deal with the very demanding, often disempowering sexual/physcological aspects of a woman's sexuality if she doesn't consider me her man or guy or husband.
Comment by Amy Nguyen on June 15, 2011 at 7:48am

(my straight female experience) -- It's a turn off!

(my thoughts) -- Men like getting hit over the head sexually. Nothing screams sex like a penis. Therefore men are penis obsessed. -- Women like subtlety, romance, beauty, and brain tickles. There's nothing subtle about a penis. Therefore, it's best not to lead with one.

Comment by LOUANN BRIZENDINE on June 17, 2011 at 3:45am
Amy--your comment is spot on, so to speak. i am, as a female, continuously amazed at how positively and eagerly men--of all ages--responds to sexually explicit speech and visuals--since i wrote THE MALE BRAIN this should not surprise me!! --but it still does--guess i have a female brain.
Comment by Joel Slater on June 17, 2011 at 6:33am
I understand that women are watching porn more and more frequently. The statistic 1/3 i have heard quoted.  As for the sexual arousal qualities of the "unknown penis"-I understand that context is very important. Porn for women and couples tends to include much more romantic foreplay (men don't need no foreplay-one play works for us).  So, I would guess that the unknown penis that belongs to a romantic man who is doing all sorts of preliminary romantic things.  (sort of unrelated but i have been a bit interested in mirror neurons-it appears that watching sex-in part triggers brain cells that are actually involved in sexual motor movements-so the relationship might not be-see sex-think about sex-get aroused--but see sex-brain thinks (in some sense) you are having sex, think about sex, get aroused.
Comment by Steven Meloan on June 17, 2011 at 8:11am
In the end, it's of course all about evolution, and issues quantity versus quality.  Sperm are cheap and plentiful.  Eggs are valuable and few.  It's to the advantage of men to be quickly and easily turned on.  For women, the consequences of such are far different--nine months of being semi-incapacitated, the risk of death during child-birth, and then 18+ years of child rearing.  It's to their advantage to be highly selective in terms of how easily they are turned on, and by whom.
Comment by Elfriede Ammann on June 18, 2011 at 12:16am

@ Joel,
72% of the men 28% of the women (tendency increasing) watch about 30.000 FREELY ACCESSIBLE porn streams.
98 percent of PAID pornography on the Internet is watched by men. (Ogi Jonathan Ogas, cognitive neuroscientist, Dr. Sai Gaddam, Bachelor of Technology Boston University, A Billion Wicked Thoughts. What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire, A Billion Wicked Thoughts, Dutton Adult, 5. May 2011

women watch porn with men to PLEASE the men. it is not for them. women's arousal when watching porn differs a lot from men's. they are screening the male character/s in respect to possibly being a threat the intactness of their physicality. this traces back to 5000 years of history of rape/violence imprinted in the female's brain.

Comment by Joel Slater on June 18, 2011 at 4:07am
@Elfriede-I think an important questionis the type of porn being watched.  I have heard of it referred to as soft porn vs. hard porn.   I would question the idea that women watch Porn of any kind to please men.  I think women enjoy porn also.  The threat part of women screening-may be true-but it seems a partial truth to me.  I think women view porn and imagine that they are having sexual relations with the cute studs they are watching.
Comment by Elfriede Ammann on June 18, 2011 at 5:28am

I see you in denial, Joel.

"enjoyment" based on violence is a brain programmed myth, a self-deception.

* Marcus Maria, A Taste for Pain: Masochism and Female Sexuality, New York, St Martin's Press, 1981


* http://de.spiritualwiki.org/Wiki/Gewalt#toc33

* http://de.spiritualwiki.org/Wiki/Gewalt#toc34

* http://de.spiritualwiki.org/Wiki/Gewalt#toc13

Comment by Joel Slater on June 18, 2011 at 6:36am
Me in De Nile?  C'mon in the water is fine.   Perhaps, but I think I am less transcendental person than you.


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