Is this too controversial to ask?

Pina De Rosa In your opinion, is this quote followed by men and women equally as much? "Always follow your heart cause your head will screw you up time and time again" ~~ the topic I have in mind is a bit controversial: are you ok to discuss the difference between men and women experiencing the need to stay in an unfulfilling marriage just because the children are young..? If too controversial a topic, I understand and thank you Louann!!

Comment by LOUANN BRIZENDINE on March 14, 2011 at 6:27pm: yes it is VERY common for women to stay in an unhappy marriage because of the children!! --the mother's brain, body and soul, will make sure her children have safety, food and shelter and schooling and not have to tolerate the psychological disruption that a divorce or separation would entail for the children.

Comment by Peter S. Lopez on March 14, 2011 at 6:59pm: Response to Tweet by @Peta_de_Aztlan drlouann Louann Brizendine

Checking out "Is this too controversial to ask?" on Dr Louann author of The Female B: http://ning.it/dOyt07

I could not help but Click to see what could be so controversial. Actually it is not controversial to me. It is a good question. Basically, should a couple stay together when they are in an unhappy relationship for other reasons than love? Of course children being in the situation makes it difficult to lightly grab one's back pack and head out the door.

My Aunt and Uncle stood in an unhappy marriage for the sake of the kids and financial holdings. The kids were successful but my Aunt and Uncle ended up sad and unhappy. So if a couple stay together who are not really into each other and deep in love there will be a piper to pay.

My parents were in love and together for decades. My Mom passed away due to complications from breast cancer when she was older in years. They had a couple of cases of infidelity way later in the marriage, but in a way it made them closer than before after amends were made. They had a long and happy marriage and balanced each other out in their personalities. Love covers a multitude of sins. My Dad never remarried, though he had a few ladies in his life and has a gal now.

When I was faced in such a situation years ago I decided it was better for my wife and I to split up, though we had a son. We ended up getting a divorce. I was in a position to get to know some beautiful women that helped in my evolution as a human being. Now I am single and enjoy my solitude, esp. being a creative writer on a good day.

Many times couples are not really married to each other in the fullest sense of the ideal of marriage. They are married to the house or other physical attachments. What will family, neighbors and business associates think?

A good marriage involves a deep merger in all realms between two people who are deeply in love with each other, then I have been accused of being an incurable romanticist.

A couple who are truly in love must mean two people who have a deep mutual commitment to a intimate relationship who will weather the storms of life together ~through thick and thin. Otherwise, it can become just a cold heartless business contract. ~Namaste, @Peta_de_Aztlan